Speaking of dating, tonight I was on the phone chatting with my mom about my whole situation (see the last post) while grocery shopping. I was chatting and chatting with her and realized that...a) people kept looking at me so I must have been speaking too loud b) my shopping list was on my phone so I needed to quit talking and shopc) there was a cute guy shopping around me too...so I said goodbye to my mom near the cute guy and continued shopping. Then super cute guy followed me down the aisle and then said, "Geez, I am so glad that you finally got off the phone."
We laughed and then moved on. Aisle after aisle we kept running into each other. (PS - he was in uniform.) And I started thinking, "dude, he was listening in on my conversation!"So I went up to him and said, "So, do you gather intellegence for the Air Force or something? Because you are a great eavesdropper."
We laughed again, totally flirting. And he followed me to the check out. We said goodbye and then ended up at the same stop light where we smiled and waved... and then what... NOTHING! How stupid am I!?! So, I will be spending the evening constantly refreshing the Craiglist Missed Connections site to see if he loves me and wrote me a note. ALL. NIGHT. LONG. It made me think of this...
Things I loved about you
The way you stared at me when I close my eyes, then you closed your eyes and I stared at you
How perfectly your hand fit in mine
How you seemed so strong on the outside, but I could tell you were so sweet on the inside
The way you said I love you, because you sounded so shy
How during that first time we were alone, when we held hands and talked for hours and finally kissed after so long
How you were so interested in my life and what I was doing
How you remembered everything I said to you perfectly
When you texted me randomly (as little as that may be)
When you told me I’m one of the most perfect girls you’ve ever met
How you were too shy to hold my hand, in case I didn’t want you to
The awkward moments - because they weren’t really awkward at all
Sitting at the table with your family and enjoying myself and you
Taking photo booth pictures with you and you made the best faces I’ve ever seen
Getting high together and making weird animal sounds as we walked back to your house
The way you made me feel after we made out for an hour
How you told me I looked great every time we saw each other - despite how untrue I thought it was
How I sat on your lap when we went on the computer together, and your legs fell asleep but you didn’t care, as long as I was sitting that close to you
How even on the coldest nights, you lent me your sweater
How much you have passions for things
Your laugh/smile
How you always made fun of me - I secretly loved it
What a loser you are, because I am too
How you admitted defeat and say sorry when I wouldn’t let you win a fight
The way you made the butterflies in my stomach flutter every time I saw your smile
How much you made me love you.
But now they are things of the past, since we broke up. I’m slowly getting over every one of these ways I loved you by replacing them with things I don’t like about you. I don’t think it’s working too well, though, because I know they will each still be in the back of my head because you were my first love and I will never forget you or a single thing that I loved about you. And truthfully, I still love most of those things. I’ll miss every one of them.
-anonymous submission
>>>side note: does anyone remember those games you play as a kid where each person adds something new to the list. like I am going to the zoo and I am going to bring a banana. then I am going to the zoo and I am going to bring a banana and a cactus...etc.
"He must be Mormon. He must be Mormon and a Marine. He must be a Mormon, Marine with a boat...etc."
"I am normally totally against this. You know. But I think that you should join eHarmony so that you can narrow your search. You could literally type in the perfect man for you."
image via Real Simple
Natalie, you are so smart. I wish I were more like you!!
check out her relationship equation...
if you like me= x
i should* like you = x - 1
I think I need to get on that boat. I am in the midst of a new relationship/thing and I think I like him more than I should*!!
(you are welcome for the image, found here)
I love that song "If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife." (I plan on playing this song for my husband everyday once I am married so that he will be reminded how lucky he is to have me!)
But this article says otherwise. I guess its the opposite. If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a hot guy your husband (in my mind I made this rhyme.)
I woke up to talk radio (WRFK, or something) this morning (maybe that's why this has been a bum day) and they were discussing this. But they were all guys and didn't have the token female DJ to chime in and bring legitimacy to the convo.
Truth is, I think its true. If you date a guy who is hotter than you, you will always worry that he will cheat on you. But if you date an "un-hot" guy who worships you then you will have a better marriage.
Hmmmm. I still want the hit guy though. Lets be honest.
So a while back the BFF and I watched "How to Lose a Guy in 10 days." a true classic. and it made me think about all of the stupid things we girls do.
in combination of my extensive research on this subject, this movie, "he's just not that into you," and "why men love bitches," I have decided to blog about this topic. I have always been able to relate a little better to guys that I have with girls. I often find myself listening to my girl friends' relationship stories and I am normally able to relate more with her boyfriend than anything else.
- do not become best friends with his mother. growing up I was always friends with the guys and they were always the cute, athletic, popular guys. i have watched many girls fall into the idea that if you become best friends with his mother it will make him fall in love with you more. the truth is, we normally become such good friends with his mother that we start to gang up on him and the last thing that a guy needs is two nagging women in his life. he most likely does want you to get along with his mother but you are dating him... not his mother. remember this.
- you had a life before you met him, keep your life after. I was recently talking with one of my favorite guys. one that provides me a lot of insight into the mind of a guy. he was talking about how ever since he started dating a new girl he feels that she wants to hang out with him all the time. he wondered what she ever did before she met him because it seems that he has become the center of her life. the reason why guys like "bitches" is because they are confident. they are going to say, "hey, I am going out with the girls this weekend. Ill talk to you monday" and just leave it at that. if you meet a guy and you like him, great, but keep on trucking with your life and let him fall into it.
- dont fall into all the "rules of contacting him." treat him like any other person in your life. if he calls you, call him back. if you missed a call from one of your friends, you'd call her back. also, you dont wait around for your best friend to call you all the time, I am sure that you call her sometimes... so call him sometimes. the key to this is to call him sometimes. not all the time. not never. sometimes. dont be a freak about emailing/texting/calling him. treat him like any other person in your life and use your best judgement. the best rule here is to once again be confident and continue on with your life and let him fall into it.
- dont lose yourself in a relationship. if a guy doesnt call you that doesnt mean that you are worthless and it doesnt mean that he is an asshole. just continue on with your life like you did before you met him.
- dont put a label on it. people think that when they label their relationship a "relationship" things will become crazy. dont let it. dont label it. continue being friends who love to hang out and are committed to each other.
- dont pick a fight. so many times I see girls try to pick fights to make their guys pay more attention to them. and I have seen guys do jerky things to have their girlfriends pick a fight with them. this is called a bad relationship and you should leave it asap!
overall, I would say that you need to continue being your badd self and let a relationship happen. a guy should fit into your life perfectly if it is meant to be.
This universal symbol is not understood in the beautiful District of Columbia. You would think that a wedding band would take you off the market just like a sold sign, but not here my friends.
I think that guys are super shady about this. They are always cheating and removing their rings. Sooo shady. DC is shady!
To all the ladies out there... I have a major announcement!
Urgh. So I was running out the door one Friday night two weeks ago and ran into a guy walking his dog. I couldn't help but smile at the cute little pooch and that sparked a conversation with the guy walking the dog that I had yet to really notice.
